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Libertarian Chick Seeks True Love

I’m Kathleen…a 45-year-old single woman from the Midwestern U.S. who doesn’t have the desire to hang out in bars, nor the time or energy for random dating…and I’m searching for my soulmate–an amazing man with a similarly odd (yet captivating) mix of life preferences, attitudes and interests.

I don’t have a lot of time (I work a lot) so I’m taking my Quest for a soulmate to the Internet. If you haven’t already read one of the numerous personal ads I have floating around online (like this one or this one), check out my “Coffee Date” page for basic details about me.

Why a Quest?

Because I tend to be a very driven person even under the best of circumstances. Waiting for something to “just happen” is not my style. And, as an entreprenur, it’s not unusual for me to work 55+ hours per week. I honestly don’t have time or the patience for long, drawn-out, get-to-know-you chit-chat and casual dating (frankly, I’d rather get some extra sleep!) So by necessity, my search for love has to be very direct and time-efficient.

Because dating sucks.

And I’ll fess up…I don’t really like dating. I’m just introverted and shy enough to find it pretty stressful and I think it’s a horribly inefficient way to get to know someone. And it’s made so much more stressful for me because several times I’ve ended up falling hard for someone and discovering pretty far into the process that there’s some huge relationship-killing “land mine” that makes us utterly incompatible. And thus, heartbreak ensues.

“Efficient Love? WTF?”

Serial entrepreneur and insanely busy person Robert Goodman invented the Efficient Love process to find the love of his life. And it worked! Then, lucky for me, he wrote a book about it.

Unlike traditional “random” dating, the goal of Efficient Love is to exchange about five dates’ worth of personal information up-front, while your brain is still working. Before you spend weeks or months going out with (and falling for) someone who’s fundamentally incompatible. And before your “naughty bits” do their best to convince you that you don’t need Mr. Right…when “Mr. Right This Second” is standing in front of you. If you think this sounds wierd, I don’t blame you. It IS wierd! But “normal” hasn’t produced the results I want.

So that’s why this website exists. If you read the whole thing, you’ll probably know more about me than anyone you’ve ever gone out with! And if we’re not a match, we’ll know long before we ever run up a long-distance phone bill.

The Down Side

I realize this is a totally unconventional way to find True Love. And I realize that this process is likely to alienate some men who may otherwise be a great match for me. But as those men have failed utterly to beat a path to my door, and my own random dating efforts haven’t worked…and my friends have stopped fixing me up because I’m “too picky”… and eHarmony sucks…I’m giving Efficient Love a try.

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