How It Works

The Efficient Love process involves exchanging a lot of information with a prospective partner up-front (usually before you even meet) to find out if you’re truly compatible. It helps you find the deal-breakers before you invest a lot of emotional energy in someone. Yeah…un-romantic, but very time-efficient and heartbreak-preventing.

The Efficient Love Lists are…

• A “coffee date” thumbnail sketch describing the various facets of my life (this information is included in my Facet Foreplay page.) It’s the kind of stuff we might talk about on a first date over coffee.

• The Profound List — the list that describes things about me that you probably wouldn’t learn until the fourth or fifth date. Unique and quirky things, mundane things. Things that could be deal-breakers, and some that could be deal-makers.

• The Profane List — The X-rated list of naughty must-haves I need to be happy in a romantic relationship (you don’t get to read this unless you’ve sent me your own Facet Foreplay, Profound and Profane Lists, and I’ve decided I like what I see.)

• The Day In/Day Out List of lifestyle preferences that will determine whether or not a potential mate and I could stand to live with each other on a daily basis. (You’ll see this list if our first three lists are compatible.)

• The Five Years From Today List describing what I want my life to look like Five Years From Today. (I’m still working on this list myself…I’ve never been good at long-range planning…)

If you want to be considered for the coveted position of My Soulmate, you’ll have to actually write and share all these lists with me. And yes, this is part of the screening process. If you’re not motivated enough to take the time to tell me all about yourself, that’s a good sign you’re just not that into me. (See, the Efficient Love process just saved us both a lot of time.)